women – Página 2 – Coral Herrera Gómez

agosto 18, 2023

What is feminism for?

What its feminism for?

To ensure the human rights of all women, regardless of their socioeconomic status, nationality, ethnicity, religion, profession, sexual orientation, or age.

To end female poverty and ensure access to water and land for all women farmers around the world.

To eliminate all forms of violence against women: abuse, sexual violence, kidnappings, sexual exploitation, slavery, abuse, mutilations, stoning, and feminicides.

To grant women freedom of movement and the ability to be in all spaces, to walk down the street without fear.

To enable girls to study and choose their profession with equal opportunities.

To provide boys and girls with sexual and emotional education, so they can enjoy sex and love without fear of pregnancies or sexually transmitted diseases.

To uphold the rights of working women, ensuring they receive equal pay for the same jobs as men, avoiding labor precarity, and preventing unemployment during economic crises.

To empower women to organize, defend their rights, and build networks of affection, cooperation, and mutual support.

To put an end to double standards and the tyranny of beauty, allowing women to view their bodies without shame and enjoy their sexuality and eroticism without fear.

To teach boys to take care of themselves and their own homes, so they don't rely on maids when they grow up.

To recognize domestic work politically and socially, and ensure fair compensation for those engaged in essential survival tasks (nutrition, hygiene, health, care, upbringing, and education). To guarantee all rights for domestic workers.

To denounce the invisibility of women's work in basic and higher education, in the media, in History, in Science, in Art, Culture, Philosophy, Politics, and Economics.
So that women feel free to choose their partner and to separate.
To prevent women from being raped or abused by their relatives when they are girls.
To ensure that women are not psychologically or physically abused by their partners.
To prevent discrimination, murder, and punishment of lesbian women and transgender individuals.
To put an end to the trafficking of sex slaves and the trafficking of women worldwide.
To enable women to be emotionally and financially independent.
To stop mass murders of women by their current or former partners.
To grant women the right to vote and be voted for.
To allow women to freely choose whether or not they want to be mothers, to balance motherhood with their work life, and to prevent them from being fired or penalized for their maternity.
To enable men to balance fatherhood with their work life, to actively participate in caregiving tasks, and to exercise their rights as fathers without social or economic penalties.
So that men can give and receive affection in public without fear of being insulted or demeaned by comparing them to girls or gays.

So that men can have beautiful relationships with free and autonomous women.

So that men can have beautiful relationships with other men, and women with other women, without suffering punishment or discrimination.

So that women and men can raise their sons and daughters with equal conditions and good treatment.

So that women do not have to be oppressed by gender mandates, so that no one imposes a model of womanhood on them, and so they can choose the type of femininity they desire or construct their own.

So that men can feel free from patriarchy. They can express their feelings without fear, learn to solve their problems without violence, and liberate themselves from the fear of not measuring up as an alpha male.

To build a better, more peaceful, and egalitarian world.

To dismantle romantic love and invent other ways of caring for each other, organizing ourselves, and relating to one another.

Coral Herrera Gómez

Original in spanish:

When does an ex become dangerous?

When they refuse to accept the separation and ask you to come back a hundred thousand times, and they don't listen when you tell them no.
When they stop caring about how you feel and completely lose empathy towards you.
When they become obsessed with the separation, can't stop thinking about you, and lose interest in everything around them.
When they try to manipulate mutual friends and your loved ones by playing the victim.
When they try to involve the children you have in common.
When their resentment, frustration, and anger take over, and they lose control over their emotions and how they express them.
When you realize they are a misogynist because they can't stand your freedom and don't respect your right to separate.
When they transition from emotional blackmail (if you don't come back to me, I'll die) to threats (if you don't come back to me, I'll kill myself/kill you/kill the children).
When they mistreat you and threaten your partner or anyone you care about.
When their wounded pride and shattered ego come into play.
When you ask them to stay away and leave you alone, and they become more insistent. When you ask them to stop calling you and they find any excuse to do so whenever they want.
When they show up at your home or workplace without asking for permission.
When you run into them on the street and at the places you frequently visit.
When they damage your car, your home, or anything that holds value for you.
When you ask for no contact and they don't respect it.
When their treatment of you and their mood abruptly change.
When they seek reasons to pick fights or create drama almost every day, and these conflicts become increasingly intense and violent.
When they become affectionate, claim they will change, and then hate you again the next day for no apparent reason.
When they try to maintain a constant presence in your life and impose themselves to maintain power over you.
When they speak to you with hatred: insults, cruel jokes, ruthless mockery, disparaging and humiliating comments, false accusations...
When they harass you through social media and phone calls. When you block them and they try to contact you from unknown numbers.
When they twist reality to suit their desires, and eventually can't distinguish their version of reality from actual reality.
When you begin to fear them, they notice, and they enjoy it.
When you look around before entering your home.
When you realize they are blinded, can't reason properly, and won't seek help.
When their life's purpose becomes turning yours into a genuine nightmare.
The greater the obsession and emotional tension, the more danger you're in. It's crucial that your loved ones and their loved ones know what's happening, and that you gather evidence. Don't think you can handle this alone or stop it on your own. Seek help from your loved ones; your support network can save your life.

Coral Herrera Gómez

Original en español: ¿Cuando se vuelve peligroso un ex?

agosto 17, 2023agosto 17, 2023

Among us: empathy, camaraderie and sisterhood

If you've never knelt before a man, if you've never suffered from partner violence, if you've never had to serve a man and work for him for free, if you're proud of yourself because you don't depend on a man economically or emotionally, it's normal that you find it difficult to understand why so many women in the world are suffering exploitation and violence from their partners.

But surely you can work on empathy within yourself to try to understand that the victims are not to blame, and that there are women who have been raised to be addicted to romanticism and to spend their lives taking care of a man, enduring, tolerating, and sacrificing themselves for him.

Romantic love is a trap for many women because the whole system is geared towards making us believe that happiness lies in marriage and family, even though the statistics on gender-based violence, violence against children, violence against the elderly, and violence against pets within the "happy family" context tell us the opposite.

Home is the most dangerous place for women, and for millions of them, escape is impossible. The more children they have, the poorer they are, the more trapped they become.

But there are also free and economically independent women who are imprisoned by love, and they could get out of it, but they don't. It's because we've been made to believe that suffering for love is rewarded, and they have to realize that it's a lie. That suffering has no reward and is not worth it. And that takes time.

Why is it so hard to leave? Because we have the myth ingrained in us, and love is a very powerful and addictive drug.

Not all women are clear that we haven't come to this world to suffer, not all know they have the right to a Good Life, not all have the tools to take care of themselves and to defend their freedom and human rights. Not all women have feminist women nearby to help them open their eyes.

So please, show some empathy if you've already opened yours. It doesn't help to talk about women who suffer for love from a position of superiority: each one needs her own time to escape the hell. From the outside, it's easy to judge and say, "I would never allow a man to treat me badly." But from the inside, many can't leave even if they want to. Some have resources and a support network, others are alone and don't even know that the emotional, sexual, and domestic abuse and exploitation they suffer is gender-based violence.

Some manage to free themselves, others never do, and others lose their lives along the way, murdered at the hands of their abuser. It's not a personal problem that everyone has to solve on their own, it's a social and political problem, it's a collective issue, and it's a matter for everyone. What we need to do is help and care for each other, and create networks of mutual support.

If you have already liberated yourself, or if you've never been in the prison of love, be supportive and help others remove the blindfold, open their eyes, and escape the cage.

We are making a revolution and we need cooperation and teamwork; on the path to liberation, we must all go together.

Coral Herrera Gómez

Original en Español:

Etiqueta: women

What is feminism for?

¿Para qué sirve el feminismo?

When does an ex become dangerous?

Among us: empathy, camaraderie and sisterhood

Entre nosotras: empatía, sororidad y compañerismo