I am the owner of my love: Women Against the Great Romantic Scam, by Coral Herrera

With great excitement, I present my sixth book. You can find it in all bookstores: "Owner of My Love: Women Against the Great Romantic Scam." This book is a collection of short essays in which I expose all those who benefit from women's suffering and the big business built around the Great Romantic Scam that puts all of us on our knees.

How do they do it? How do they manage to make millions of girls, teenagers, and adult women believe that happiness lies in finding their other half and creating a "happy family" with the prince charming? What happens when we realize it's a trap? How does romantic suffering destroy us from within, and who takes advantage of it? How are we going to protect young girls so they don't go naked into the patriarchal war of love?

This book is a feminist call to women's rebellion: we need to disarm Cupid so he no longer subdues us. We must understand who funds Cupid, who benefits from romantic suffering, and how to free ourselves and future generations of women from living on our knees in front of love.


An invitation to take away Cupid's bow and arrows, to dethrone those who want women on their knees, and to free ourselves from the traps of romanticism. After the sexual revolution, the love revolution arrives: women who want to stop suffering for love are working to detach themselves from one of the most powerful drugs in the world, and to prevent more women from becoming love junkies and succumbing to the grand romantic scam. We cannot leave girls and teenagers alone while they are bombarded with princess tales and movies with happy endings.

We must prepare them so they don't go naked into the global war against women, naively believing in the myths that bring us to our knees: the romantic myth, the myth of the happy family, the myth of balance.

Coral Herrera invites us to rise up, to take Cupid's bow and arrows away, to dethrone the kings who want us on our knees, and to free ourselves from the traps of romanticism. In this book, the author exposes all those who benefit from women's suffering and challenges men to join the revolution by engaging in self-criticism, both individually and collectively.

Romance is political: with feminism, we have learned that we are not slaves to love and that we are not at the mercy of gods or destiny. Coral encourages us to take the reins and fight for our autonomy and freedom: we have the right to pleasure and to enjoy love, and we must never forget that we are all the owners of our desires, our feelings, and our dreams.

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Revolution is ethical, not aesthetical


It is not your appearance that makes you a subversive person; true transgression lies in how you treat others, how you interact with people, and what values and principles guide your behavior.

Being a rebellious person is not about shocking others with tattoos, piercings, wigs, heels, corsets, and sexy dresses.

Rebels are the women who think about the Common Good and fight against oppression and slavery.

This is an ethics-based revolution: we are talking about human rights, we are talking about ending the suffering and exploitation of women. The Revolution is a battle to end hate, violence, and abuse of power.

It is a struggle of women who no longer want to work for any man for free; it is a fight against servitude.

The common goal is for all of us to be free, have rights, and live better lives.

Coral Herrera Gómez

Original en español:

The Ethics of Love and the Philosophy of Care: A fundamental subject for life.


The key to the change we need lies in care. To end the suffering of the population and build a better world, we could start by teaching the values of the Culture of Non-Violence, Ethical Love, and the Philosophy of Care in schools.

Learning to care for myself, my home, and the spaces I inhabit, caring for my loved ones, caring for nature, and caring for the planet: it's a simple formula to improve our ways of relating and organizing.

The pandemic of suicides and mental illnesses demonstrates the urgent need for tools to halt self-destruction and curb the violence we exert against ourselves, among us, and against other living beings and the planet.

It's time to learn how to take care of ourselves and our relationships: we have the right to live a good life and dream of a better world. And Coeducation based on the values of ecofeminism and pacifism is a powerful tool to initiate the changes we need.

The modules of this subject would be:

  1. Taking Care of Myself:
  • Learning sexual and emotional education.
  • Learning to build a beautiful relationship with myself, learning to love and treat myself well.
  • Learning to listen to myself and have confidence in myself.
  • Strengthening my self-esteem.
  • Controlling my ego and cultivating humility.
  • Learning to care for my words and the way I speak to myself and others.
  • Learning to manage my emotions so they don't overwhelm me or others.
  • Acquiring tools to know myself better and appreciate my abilities and qualities.
  • Working on aspects of myself that I don't like, things that make me suffer and cause suffering to others.
  • Learning to practice loving self-critique and working to become a better person.
  • Learning to take care of my mental and emotional health.
  • Learning to take care of my sexual health and enjoy my relationships.
  • Learning to value my life and take care of my health: basic knowledge of hygiene, nutrition, and well-being.
  • Learning to be responsible for my well-being and happiness.
  • Learning my fundamental Human Rights, as well as those of others.
  • Learning to be loyal to myself.


2.Taking Care of Others:

  • Learning the arts of assertiveness and Nonviolent Communication.
  • Learning to think about the Common Good.
  • Understanding human relationship structures and power hierarchies to change how I relate to others.
  • Learning to use my own power and understanding how others use theirs.
  • Learning to cooperate and build networks of mutual support.
  • Developing empathy, solidarity, and companionship.
  • Unlearning the notion of deriving enjoyment from causing suffering to others.
  • Learning to relate with respect and kindness.
  • Analysis and deconstruction of individualism values (selfishness, narcissism, etc.).
  • Reflecting on suffering, evil, and cruelty.
  • Unlearning values of accumulation and hoarding.
  • Learning to share and work as a team.
  • Learning to forge alliances and networks of mutual support.
  • Learning to resolve conflicts without resorting to violence.
  • Training to become aware of the impact our words, desires, thoughts, and actions have on others.
  • Imagining alternative ways of relating and loving, free from suffering and exploitation.
  • Advocating for our right and the right of others to enjoy a good life.
  • Taking care of the elderly and children, taking care of the most vulnerable people and animals.
  • Taking care of my partner.
  • Taking care of my caregivers.
  • Taking care of my pets and plants.


3. Taking Care of My Home and the Spaces We Inhabit, and Caring for My Planet:

  • Learning basic tasks for survival (hygiene and cleanliness, nutrition, physical, mental, and emotional health).
  • Embracing my responsibility as a citizen for building a better world.
  • Learning to enjoy and care for nature, and understanding the delicate balance of our ecosystem.
  • Developing immunity against intolerance, socially transmitted diseases, and phobias.
  • Learning to value the biological and cultural diversity of our planet.
  • Imagining alternative ways of interacting with the planet and the other living beings that inhabit it.
  • Envisioning alternative ways of nourishing ourselves, producing, and relating.
  • Imagining alternative models of social, political, economic, sexual, and emotional organization.
  • Dreaming of other worlds and investigating with the tools of science to bring them into reality.

In this subject, the main cross-cutting theme would be Human Rights, social movements, and universal principles of social justice, freedom, peace, solidarity, care, and love.


At a theoretical level, these cross-cutting themes would be addressed:

  • Theory of culture and media: techniques of reality construction and mass manipulation.
  • Feminist theory and history of the women's liberation movement.
  • Ecological theory and the environmental movement.
  • Pacifist and antimilitarist theory and movement.
  • Studies of masculinities, anti-racism, diversity, and culture of non-violence.

Throughout the course, students will have the opportunity to engage with significant questions of Humanity and imagine alternatives to the current system:

  • Is life a common phenomenon in the Cosmos? Are there other civilizations, or are we completely alone in an immense and vast Universe?
  • Why is life on our planet threatened, and why are we destroying it despite knowing the consequences?
  • Given the knowledge and necessary skills to save ourselves, why aren't we already doing it?
  • How can we eliminate inequality and hierarchies?
  • How can we put an end to violence and wars?
  • How do we distribute resources among everyone to eliminate poverty, exploitation, and suffering?
  • How can we ensure that we all live better lives than we do now?
  • How do we improve communication, care, and love for one another?


This subject blends the personal with the political: its aim is to equip students with the ability to think about the Common Good and the Community of human beings on this planet. It aims to develop their capacity for critical thinking, provide them with tools to decipher the underlying ideology in the messages they receive through media and cultural productions, encourage the blossoming of their imagination, acquire basic values for building good relationships, and work towards a better world.

When the first generation receives these teachings and embraces these values, they will be able to educate their children without violence and help them develop their own tools for self-care and caring for others.

We have the right to demand that governments provide us with an ecofeminist and pacifist education, based on the ethics of love and the philosophy of care, because the future of humanity depends on our ability to care for the planet and think about the Common Good.

The revolution of love starts in schools and universities: we simply need to teach the new generations how to create their own tools to contribute to the construction of a better world.

Coral Herrera Gómez

Original en español: La Ética del Amor y la Filosofía de los Cuidados