I am the owner of my love: Women Against the Great Romantic Scam, by Coral Herrera

With great excitement, I present my sixth book. You can find it in all bookstores: "Owner of My Love: Women Against the Great Romantic Scam." This book is a collection of short essays in which I expose all those who benefit from women's suffering and the big business built around the Great Romantic Scam that puts all of us on our knees.

How do they do it? How do they manage to make millions of girls, teenagers, and adult women believe that happiness lies in finding their other half and creating a "happy family" with the prince charming? What happens when we realize it's a trap? How does romantic suffering destroy us from within, and who takes advantage of it? How are we going to protect young girls so they don't go naked into the patriarchal war of love?

This book is a feminist call to women's rebellion: we need to disarm Cupid so he no longer subdues us. We must understand who funds Cupid, who benefits from romantic suffering, and how to free ourselves and future generations of women from living on our knees in front of love.


An invitation to take away Cupid's bow and arrows, to dethrone those who want women on their knees, and to free ourselves from the traps of romanticism. After the sexual revolution, the love revolution arrives: women who want to stop suffering for love are working to detach themselves from one of the most powerful drugs in the world, and to prevent more women from becoming love junkies and succumbing to the grand romantic scam. We cannot leave girls and teenagers alone while they are bombarded with princess tales and movies with happy endings.

We must prepare them so they don't go naked into the global war against women, naively believing in the myths that bring us to our knees: the romantic myth, the myth of the happy family, the myth of balance.

Coral Herrera invites us to rise up, to take Cupid's bow and arrows away, to dethrone the kings who want us on our knees, and to free ourselves from the traps of romanticism. In this book, the author exposes all those who benefit from women's suffering and challenges men to join the revolution by engaging in self-criticism, both individually and collectively.

Romance is political: with feminism, we have learned that we are not slaves to love and that we are not at the mercy of gods or destiny. Coral encourages us to take the reins and fight for our autonomy and freedom: we have the right to pleasure and to enjoy love, and we must never forget that we are all the owners of our desires, our feelings, and our dreams.

Youy can find it in Amazon:

Revolution is ethical, not aesthetical


It is not your appearance that makes you a subversive person; true transgression lies in how you treat others, how you interact with people, and what values and principles guide your behavior.

Being a rebellious person is not about shocking others with tattoos, piercings, wigs, heels, corsets, and sexy dresses.

Rebels are the women who think about the Common Good and fight against oppression and slavery.

This is an ethics-based revolution: we are talking about human rights, we are talking about ending the suffering and exploitation of women. The Revolution is a battle to end hate, violence, and abuse of power.

It is a struggle of women who no longer want to work for any man for free; it is a fight against servitude.

The common goal is for all of us to be free, have rights, and live better lives.

Coral Herrera Gómez

Original en español:

When does an ex become dangerous?


  • When they refuse to accept the separation and ask you to come back a hundred thousand times, and they don't listen when you tell them no.
  • When they stop caring about how you feel and completely lose empathy towards you.
  • When they become obsessed with the separation, can't stop thinking about you, and lose interest in everything around them.
  • When they try to manipulate mutual friends and your loved ones by playing the victim.
  • When they try to involve the children you have in common.
  • When their resentment, frustration, and anger take over, and they lose control over their emotions and how they express them.
  • When you realize they are a misogynist because they can't stand your freedom and don't respect your right to separate.
  • When they transition from emotional blackmail (if you don't come back to me, I'll die) to threats (if you don't come back to me, I'll kill myself/kill you/kill the children).
  • When they mistreat you and threaten your partner or anyone you care about.
  • When their wounded pride and shattered ego come into play.
  • When you ask them to stay away and leave you alone, and they become more insistent. When you ask them to stop calling you and they find any excuse to do so whenever they want.
  • When they show up at your home or workplace without asking for permission.
  • When you run into them on the street and at the places you frequently visit.
  • When they damage your car, your home, or anything that holds value for you.
  • When you ask for no contact and they don't respect it.
  • When their treatment of you and their mood abruptly change.
  • When they seek reasons to pick fights or create drama almost every day, and these conflicts become increasingly intense and violent.
  • When they become affectionate, claim they will change, and then hate you again the next day for no apparent reason.
  • When they try to maintain a constant presence in your life and impose themselves to maintain power over you.
  • When they speak to you with hatred: insults, cruel jokes, ruthless mockery, disparaging and humiliating comments, false accusations...
  • When they harass you through social media and phone calls. When you block them and they try to contact you from unknown numbers.
  • When they twist reality to suit their desires, and eventually can't distinguish their version of reality from actual reality.
  • When you begin to fear them, they notice, and they enjoy it.
  • When you look around before entering your home.
  • When you realize they are blinded, can't reason properly, and won't seek help.
  • When their life's purpose becomes turning yours into a genuine nightmare.
  • The greater the obsession and emotional tension, the more danger you're in. It's crucial that your loved ones and their loved ones know what's happening, and that you gather evidence. Don't think you can handle this alone or stop it on your own. Seek help from your loved ones; your support network can save your life.

Coral Herrera Gómez

Original en español: ¿Cuando se vuelve peligroso un ex?