Women are capable of doing anything when we fall in love:
- In love, we can decide not to start a relationship if the right conditions for loving and enjoying love are not present.
- In love, we can negotiate how we will build the relationship from the beginning to the end.
- In love, we can establish boundaries and red lines on non-negotiable issues (such as personal freedom, respect, and relationships with our loved ones).
- In love, we can recognize when someone loves us and when they don't, and we can leave a relationship without reciprocity.
- In love, we can take the leap with a parachute and enjoy the flight without putting ourselves in danger.
- In love and drunk with love, we can continue to use our intelligence and common sense, and we can make important decisions responsibly.
- In love, we can continue to be ourselves and be loyal to ourselves.
- In love, we can love as mature women, take responsibility for our well-being, and commit to ourselves as we commit to our beloved.
- In love, we can read the signs and listen to ourselves, pay attention, and not overlook anything that indicates something is not right in the relationship.
- In love, we can end the relationship with our beloved if they don't treat us well, don't care for us, and don't treat us with respect.
- In love, we can boldly voice our wants, desires, and needs, even if they don't align with those of our partner.
- In love, we can prevent our emotions from harming us or others.
- In love, we can shield ourselves from our partner's negative or destructive emotions causing us suffering.
- In love, we can say no when we want to say no. No matter how deeply in love we are, we can.
- In love, we can demand that our partner use protection and share responsibility for both partners' sexual and reproductive health.
- In love, we can refuse to play the role of a servant and demand that our partners fulfill their responsibilities and obligations in household and caregiving tasks.
- In love, we can demystify love and explore new ways of loving each other beyond gender norms.
- In love, we can continue to care for our friends just as we do when we are not in love.
- In love, we can refuse to sacrifice, give up, and endure for the sake of love.
- In love, we can work to fall out of love when we are not happy in a relationship.
- In love, we can escape from relationships that pose a threat to our mental, emotional, and physical health or our own survival.
- In love, we can analyze what brings us happiness and what causes us suffering, and we can make decisions to stop suffering.
- In love, we can rebel against the romantic hoax and help other women in love realize that they are not condemned to suffer for love.
- In love, we can avoid self-deception and work on everything we need to work on to live a good life, free from suffering and violence.
- In love, we can take care of ourselves and ensure our safety and well-being.
- In love, we can take care of our sons and daughters, and make decisions to protect them and spare them suffering.
- In love, we can seek help if we feel that we cannot face a situation alone.
- In love, we can detach from romantic addiction, overcome withdrawal symptoms, and free ourselves from the drug that kneels us in love.
There's nothing we can't do when in love. Because at all times and in all places, only we can say: "In my heart, I am in charge; I am the owner of my love."
Coral Herrera Gómez
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