I am the owner of my love.
One of the most important discoveries I have made in my life was realizing that we all can choose who to fall in love with, and becoming aware of when it's time to fall out of love.
We might feel very attracted to someone, but before we start getting intoxicated with love, we can pause to think whether we want to fall in love or not, if it's worth it, if it's in our best interest or not, and what doses we can take to enjoy it.
The big trap of romantic love is that it makes us believe that when Cupid shoots his arrows, we can't do anything, and that we are doomed to suffer, even to live a terrible life with people who don't love us and don't care for us.
But when you realize that you are a free being, that you are the owner of your life, your body, your desire, what you seek is to spare yourself from suffering. When you take care of yourself and love yourself well, when you want to have a good life, you understand that you're not condemned, that you can choose who you want to be with and who you don't, that you can use common sense to make decisions, and that therefore you are not a slave to patriarchal romanticism.
It took me a few years to discover this, but it was a total liberation to know that I am responsible for my own happiness, I am the owner of the love that arises within me, and I choose who I want to experience it with and share it with.
I am the owner of my love.
Coral Herrera Gómez
Original article: Yo soy dueña de mi amor