Stopping suffering for love is revolutionary.
The most revolutionary thing we, as women, can do in our everyday lives today is to not suffer for the love of a man. Because the patriarchy wants us on our knees, begging or demanding love, dreaming of love, enduring for love, sacrificing ourselves for love, giving up everything just to be loved by a man.
We need to be rebels: we don't have to stay in relationships where we aren't happy, we don't have to settle for scraps of love, we don't have to be understanding towards someone who doesn't know or doesn't want to take care of us, and we don't have to make it our mission to save any man. What we want and what we deserve is to find partners with whom we can enjoy sex, love, and life.
If there's no such partner, it's better to be without a relationship than to suffer for a guy who relishes in our suffering, who feels powerful having one or several women at his feet, all longing for a bit of attention and affection.
Suffering for the love of a man is over: if you're not having fun, if you're not enjoying it, leave that cursed drug behind and start taking good care of yourselves. Let's have fun, because the more we enjoy, the more it frustrates everyone who wants us bitter, insecure, filled with fears, or dependent on a man.
To put an end to the patriarchy, we must free ourselves from the need to be loved by a guy: let's break free from suffering, let's love ourselves properly and be happy, let's fill our lives with affection and lots of genuine love.
Coral Herrera Gómez
Artículo en español: Dejar de sufrir por amor es revolucionario